Either, Or; Both, And

I was watching The Journey Home the other day and I heard something so profound.  The host was discussing a Calvinist's conversion to Catholicism and comparing Catholic beliefs to Protestant beliefs.  He said that Protestants debate among each other an "Either, Or" theology.  It's either one belief or it is the other.  Either God is Sovereign and chose His elect, OR He has given us all free will.

He explained that in Catholicism it is very much a "Both, And" theology.  God is both Sovereign AND gives us free will.  Christ is both God, AND man.  He calls it a mystery.  The convert was saying how she really wanted to go to Adoration, but felt God stopping her and telling her to stay home with her sick husband.  The host said, it isn't either, or.  It isn't either Adoration or sitting at home with a sick husband.  It is both, and.  She is doing God's work, she is in worship, in adoration at home serving her husband selflessly, and there in her heart at Adoration.

I thought that was beautiful.  I'm sure there are Protestants who believe that, too, but I also see the "either, or" mentality.  The us vs. them.